What does Abundance mean to you?


To me, abundance is not just from material wealth, but from learning to be content with what you have. Because I’ve met people who are rich but are not living an abundant life. They might be suffering from depression or anxiety or unhappiness. And then I’ve met other people who are materially poor, but have great emotional wealth. They are full of joy and trust and love.  All of which got me thinking about abundance. 

As I’ve mentioned before, when our airport was closed to tourists, I lost all the money in my bank account. I knew I couldn’t pay the gardeners any more, so I asked them to stop coming. I left some of my bills unpaid until I could afford to pay them. Thankfully, I had great coping techniques so I felt very peaceful and even happy during the pandemic.

But the weird thing was, even when we had tourists coming back and I had money in my account again, I was still scared to spend it! Why was that? Because my mind had gone into a scarcity mindset. 

What’s the difference between a Scarcity Mindset and an Abundant one?

With a scarcity mindset we believe there is not enough of something to go round. We don’t dare spend money, and yet at the same time, we might have the fear of missing out. 

Abundance on the other hand is a reassurance that there is enough to go round for all of us. Have you met people who are experts at something and perhaps even teach it to you, but deep down you know they don’t want you to succeed? It’s because they feel threatened by you. They don’t have an abundance mindset… 

Abundance can also be about time. When I had younger children, I used to constantly rush around and always be late for school, for church, for the cinema, or to meet friends. I never had enough time! Yet, now I have two businesses and I have plenty of time! I wonder what on earth I did with my time before!

The truth is we all have the same amount of time. And we do have enough of it to get everything done. Some of us just have unrealistic ideas about how long things take. The trick is to schedule more time than you think you need for a task and leave a buffer before the next one. And to remember that tomorrow is another day so there is plenty of time. That’s an abundance mindset. 

So how do you get an Abundance Mindset?

Step 1

Practise Gratitude. It might sound like a cliché, but gratitude really is the answer to so many things. Tony Robbins says ”When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”

Step 2

Visualize abundance. We cannot receive what we don’t ask for. So ask away. Ask for respect in personal relationships. Yes, you can Ask for a pay rise. Ask for the changes you need in your life. And visualize them. Imagine yourself in the position you want to be in. From there your intuition will teach you what needs to happen to get you there. 

Step 3

Let go of attachment to a very specific outcome. When we have expectations, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. Whereas if we remain open, we allow anything to happen and we accept the outcome.  It may be even better than what we imagined.  The thought leader Bryant H. McGill agrees: “Abundance is the process of letting go; that which is empty can receive.” 

A combination of these steps, where you are grateful in advance for whatever will come your way is a powerful way to create abundance!

If you’d like to see how I can help you have more abundance in your life, I would be happy to get on a call with you. You can schedule a conversation with me here.  Or you can email me any questions you might have at seaorchardretreat@gmail.com and I will answer within 24 hours. For other subjects see also https://relationshipcoachingsolutions.net/blog/






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