Failure is essential!
It is a normal part of life. Failure is a temporary state on the journey to success. So let’s all embrace failure.
I remember when my husband and I invested in some relationship coaching. I was expecting great things because the coach’s videos were so inspiring. But to my horror, the sessions were actually damaging to our relationship! The only good thing about them was that I had to step up to the plate and put right the damage that had been done during the sessions. So the failure of the coaching helped in a sense. Thankfully the sessions improved after that.
If you have ever worked in sales you will know that when something does not work, you have to try something else. In fact you keep trying until you find something that does work. My first sales boss used to say “It’s a numbers game.” It is the same with everything. We just have to keep trying different methods.
Sometimes it is only when we hit rock bottom that we are inspired to make a huge effort to change. That is certainly the case with me. I wanted to start a coaching business in 2011 so I did a certification course. But after an initial failure, I gave up and forgot all about it. It was only when the pandemic happened and my bank account went from a healthy 6 figures to $200, that I decided to take up coaching again. Now, 9 courses later, I am infinitely more skilled, knowledgeable and experienced than I was back then.
Think of all the people who have had epic failures in their projects. You must have heard the stories about Elon Musk, Winston Churchill, Steve Jobs, Thomas Edison… In case you haven’t here is a list for inspiration https://budbilanich.com/50-famous-people-who-failed-at-their-first-attempt-at-career-success/
How can failure be essential in relationships?
Some people go for years without an argument with their partner. They live on the surface and never get down to the nitty gritty of what makes them tick. This might look like a good relationship on the outside. It may even feel good to one of the partners. But it is a tragedy in my opinion. This is not what I mean when I say that failure is essential!
We need to be able to speak to our significant other about anything and everything. If we are not allowed to be who we really are, then we will not feel accepted or loved. We need to express our emotions and ask for what we need. So it is essential to communicate with each other even if it means having difficult conversations.
When we try to have a conversation with our partner and it ends in a huge argument, it might feel like failure. But it is an invaluable opportunity to learn. This is the type of failure that is essential! Because next time you will try a different approach and see how that goes. You can figure out how to have a healthy discussion on your own, through trial and error. I have every confidence in you that if you focus on improving your relationship it will get better.
However if you are ready to accept help, why not try coaching?
If you want any help with learning from your failures, I invite you to try out a powerful coaching call so you can experience it for yourself. It is my gift to you. I also have a group coaching program that will help with this.
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