Feeling Invisible?

Are you Feeling Invisible?

Feeling Invisible?

Or have you ever felt invisible?

I know I have on numerous occasions.  For example, when I have met someone several times before and they can’t remember me at all!  Or when I am speaking and notice that nobody is listening.

Why does this happen?

First of all, people remember how you made them feel. So if you had a bland conversation there is nothing to remember you by. If they had a positive or even a negative emotional response to you, they are much more likely to remember you. Obviously it would be preferable if they remembered you in a positive way.

So how can you ensure that people have a positive response to you?

  • You can be curious and ask them questions,
  • Simple things like good eye contact show that you are interested in them,
  • You can make sure that you really listen to them and don’t interrupt when they are talking,
  • Staying upbeat and lighthearted will make them want to remember you.

Secondly, when you meet someone try to make a point of remembering something about them. So that next time you meet them you can ask about their family or their business.

What if there has been some sort of misunderstanding that leaves you feeling invisible?

Not saying anything will probably lead to resentment. And it’s really hard to start a conversation with someone when they’ve been actively ignoring you for years. So it is good to share how you feel with them while it’s still current. But aim to avoid conflict, by communicating with ‘I’ statements rather than criticism. They are much more likely to listen if they don’t feel defensive.

As well as giving your side of the argument, make sure that you fully listen to theirs.

Finally, look for a solution to the problem. You will usually be able to come up with some sort of compromise that works for both of you.

If you would like any support with no longer feeling invisible, you can book a no obligation call with me here.

You may also be interested in this article on feeling lonely.

 

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