How Does Confidence Affect Relationships?
Confidence affects relationships in many ways. Here are just some that have an impact:
- First of all, having confidence makes us more attractive. Beyoncé said “The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence.” A lack of confidence is quite off putting. Think of a man who cannot make a decision. His dithering can be quite annoying and is certainly not attractive. Or a woman who has so little confidence that she cannot believe she is worthy of love. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Because she is giving off unconfident vibes, people avoid her.
- Secondly, confidence affects our abilities to set boundaries. Without it, we have no boundaries in place, and people can walk all over us. We actually lose our sense of identity if we don’t have confidence in who we are. That means we take on the trappings of someone else’s life to please them. For instance if they drink alcohol, we drink with them. If they are sober, we are sober too. But when we work on our confidence, we have a clear idea of what we want in a relationship. We can choose to say “no” to people.
- Thirdly, when we have confidence, we make more conscious choices in our lives. We actually choose our work, our friends and our partner. Staying because we are too weak to choose for ourselves is no longer enough. We avoid toxic relationships and create healthy ones, whether personal or professional. The reality dawns on us that we can create the lives we want for ourselves.
So How Can You Grow in Confidence?
i) The first thing you need to do is to practise self-love. Set aside time for yourself to do things that are relaxing and make you feel safe and loved.
ii) You can build your confidence by consciously setting boundaries. This will give you a clearer idea of your identity. You will be more sure of what you accept and what you reject.
iii) One of the most important things you can do to improve your confidence levels is to make your self-talk loving and positive. You can start with affirmations, such as “I am worthy of respect” or “I am well on my way to success.”
iv) Another way to build confidence is to speak your truth. When you respect yourself enough to speak up, other will respect you. This will confirm in your mind that you are worthy of respect.
v) Practising gratitude will also make you feel more confident. You will be less critical of yourself and others. As you start to radiate joy, others will gravitate towards you.
vi) Schedule all the tasks you need to do and break them down into small manageable chunks. This will give you a sense of achievement as you accomplish each task.
If you want to learn more about how confidence affects relationships, I invite you to try out a powerful coaching call so you can experience it for yourself. It is my gift to you. I also have a group coaching program that will help with this.
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