Is Porn the Same as Adultery?

People often ask is porn the same as adultery?

Anything that excludes the partner, whether emotionally or physically is a form of cheating. Adultery and porn use are both forms of cheating, but in different ways.

Adultery is having an emotional and/or physical relationship with another person. If there is emotional connection they are using the same relating skills that they need for marriage.

Using porn, on the other hand, is having sex with images of people the user doesn’t know. There is no build up of conversation and no emotional connection.

The object of it is to achieve orgasm without bothering to do the work that leads to making love. The user does not need to take the image out to dinner or spend time getting to know it. There is no need to empathise with its feelings or focus on making it feel loved.

How does Porn affect a Marriage?

Porn is a glorification of orgasm, instead of relationship. Whereas marriage should be all about relationship.

Using porn actually damages the user’s ability to relate to a real living person. It also affects their physical ability to make love. Men who use porn tend to get ED with their wives. Considering these two facts, it is way more harmful than people think.

Can a Marriage be Repaired after Adultery or Porn?

Both adultery and porn are symptoms of a marriage being in trouble. And both contribute to the trouble in a relationship.

But humans are resilient. If either partner has indulged in adultery or porn, there is still hope that they can repair their marriage.

To recover from adultery or porn use, you need help from a trained professional. Relationship coaching helps you to work through these issues. It will teach you the skills to build connection, have healthy discussions and heal from your past.

 

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