Taking Back your Power

Are you taking back your power?

Taking back your power

On Saturday I sent a message to a woman who I used to be friends with at Prep School in the UK. She grew up in the Cayman Islands, so she was actually the reason I had heard of them as a nice place to live. We had lost touch because she had contracted meningitis and left the school. My mother told me she had probably died. When we arrived in Cayman, a mutual friend had told me she didn’t remember me, so I had not bothered to contact her in the 22 years I’ve lived here.

She had actually been in the year below me at school. So in theory we would not have been friends in the first place. The reason I was friends with her was because the boys in my class used to hit me. This went on for a couple of years. As a result, the girls in my class were too afraid to be friends with me. She and another friend in her class were like a safe haven for me.

I’m telling you this because as soon as I sent the message I started to cry. When I thought about why, I understood that it’s all about putting things right and taking back my power. Although I’ve forgiven those boys long ago, the experience of daily kicks and insults affected me deeply. It caused me to have limiting beliefs that severely impaired my relationships and my career.

And taking back your power in relationships is important, because we teach people how to treat us. We model it in how we treat them and in how we treat ourselves. This is part of taking responsibility for your life and relationships.

Taking Back your Power with Goals

While on the theme of taking back my power, this past weekend was a good one for that. I ran a half marathon for the first time. I have not been a regular runner until recently. It was something I only thought of in September. But it turned out that it was all about taking back my power. Setting that goal and consistently working towards it has helped build my confidence and shown me I have so much more potential.

One of the things that has made a difference is the playlist I’ve been running to. Obviously, having a good rhythm certainly helps. But what amazes me is how many songs there are that empower women. Where have I been? For the last 30 years, I’ve been too busy bringing up 4 children and working on my self development to notice much of what was happening in the music world.

Does any of this resonate with you? If you’d like any support taking back your power in your relationships or career, let’s have a call.


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I help women and men like you to love themselves and  connect with their emotionally distant partners, so that they find their happy ever after. I am a Christian but I love working with couples from other faiths too.

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